Day 12: April 23, 2017
Challenge: Plan a party
At the outset, this is another challenge that is seemingly simple. All I had to do was decide where and when I wanted my birthday party to be, and create a Facebook event to invite all my friends. Easy-peasy! But, I've had bad experiences with parties. I've thrown a lot of parties in my time, easily over a hundred, however I can count on one hand the number of parties that I felt were a success. It takes all my fingers and toes, and maybe my cat's as well, to count the number of parties I've thrown where nobody came. And that's not even counting the ones where none of my friends came and "my" party was peopled by my sister's friends. So, anxiety about throwing my 40th birthday bash, arguably the most important party of my life to date, and having nobody show up was nearly crippling. That is why I felt that this task needed to be included as part of my birthday challenge.
The lesson to learn here is that I deserve to celebrate, and it doesn't matter if nobody else wants to celebrate with me. I needed to be completely OK with this concept. As soon as I let go of whether or not people would actually show up, then it was easy to call IHOP and say 20 people would be coming. It's a funny thing in life that when you stop worrying about what other people think, it allows you to think about other people. And, when you think about other people, they, in turn, think about you. I became a lot less self-absorbed, which strangely enough made me a lot more confident, and personable. It was a really good lesson to learn.
Challenge: Plan a party
At the outset, this is another challenge that is seemingly simple. All I had to do was decide where and when I wanted my birthday party to be, and create a Facebook event to invite all my friends. Easy-peasy! But, I've had bad experiences with parties. I've thrown a lot of parties in my time, easily over a hundred, however I can count on one hand the number of parties that I felt were a success. It takes all my fingers and toes, and maybe my cat's as well, to count the number of parties I've thrown where nobody came. And that's not even counting the ones where none of my friends came and "my" party was peopled by my sister's friends. So, anxiety about throwing my 40th birthday bash, arguably the most important party of my life to date, and having nobody show up was nearly crippling. That is why I felt that this task needed to be included as part of my birthday challenge.
The lesson to learn here is that I deserve to celebrate, and it doesn't matter if nobody else wants to celebrate with me. I needed to be completely OK with this concept. As soon as I let go of whether or not people would actually show up, then it was easy to call IHOP and say 20 people would be coming. It's a funny thing in life that when you stop worrying about what other people think, it allows you to think about other people. And, when you think about other people, they, in turn, think about you. I became a lot less self-absorbed, which strangely enough made me a lot more confident, and personable. It was a really good lesson to learn.
Plan a party! #40daysto40 #birthdaychallenge #everyoneisinvited #IHOPonmybirthday #breakfastfoodsaremyfavorite #29daystogo— Stacy Snider (@StacyLeeSnider) April 24, 2017
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